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How To Get Relative To Join The Real World and Do Something?

I have a 38 year old brother who currently has no job, no means to pay his bills, no drivers license, probably over 30,000 in child support owes to state of New York and smokes marijuana on a daily basis. He hasn't worked in a long while and when he did work it was for a relative and he even had to let him go b/c he did not work just sat around. His job history before this is scattered and didn't work for a long time even years. He really has no ambition at all unless it comes to smoking weed or watching a football game. My question is how can you get a person like this to see the light and finally do something with his life (if its possible at his age). He's even gone as far as telling my parents and relatives he has no money, no laundry, no food and has been making them buy food last few weeks because he's apparently broke. Then recently he was found to have been buying marijuana still so he is lying about not having a few bucks too even though I'm sure his bank account is close to rock bottom. Seems like a sociopath to me with the way he acts, doesn't ever work, has terrible credit makes other people sign lease's so if he doesn't pay it affects their credit and doesn't really care if it does. This isn't a new thing however, this has been going in a cycle since he was 18 years old never works, is terribly lazy, pays not attention to his son or child support and constantly is getting bailed out by my parents when the time comes. Anyone have any idea's - Rehab? Intervention? Counseling? I'm at a loss for words it's just an exhausting game he plays. Also has an apartment with my father's name on lease and he has someone else pay 500 a month who lives with him while cost is 800 and now he can't pay and my dad's name on the lease! It's a mess and not sure what to do.... There are so many stories I could tell about all the bad and deviant things he has done but I would be on here all evening. He has lived with my parents on many occasions and it never works out as he does nothing, sits around all day and never works. That's not an option anymore and last year he was living with them then got an apartment that they signed for and he has been paying for it mostly the last year with a bond my Grandfather left him but he ran through that real quick. He constantly acts like everything is ok and he's fine. I think his marijuana addiction could be a key problem with him.

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1. I'll give you my advice but you and your family won't like it and more then likely won't take it. 1) Your Dad needs to evict his butt from the apartment then sublet it to someone who can and will pay the rent, 2) Every one in the family has to make it clear their are no more hand outs or helping hands or hands of any kind for him he's on his own tell he gets his life straightened up 3) No one can take him in buy him groceries do his laundry give him rides loan him or give him so much as a bus token 4) If he calls be nice but no one can let him come over for a "visit" or "dinner" You have all been enabler you have helped him stay right where he is and what incentive has he had to do anything for himself if he can get others to do everything for him. He get thrown out or doesn't pay the rent someone else apparently picks up the pieces for him, he want to buy pot not food and you all run out and get his groceries. He's 30 he needs to sink or swim on his own you've kept his head above water long enough if you don't he's just going to drown all of you and climb over your corpses to the edge of the pool