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Hi,I am a young woman in love with a Nigerian man? Can anybody relate to this unique and special experience?

My family doesn't want me to be with him, and now they say they don't even like him. They are prejudiced against Africans, and Nigerians in particular, as well, and just to let you know, we are an African-American family, so just in case you were, about to think, we are white, not really, it's reverse discrimination. My family has named every stereotype in the book about my boyfriend, anything, and everything, from, he will kill me, (no proof) , to the fact that my kids are going to come out too dark, and be black and nappy-headed. They have put my character into question, behind this guy, telling outright lies on me, and they have stated that because I love this guy, they can no longer TRUST ME - period. My only crime was that I fell in love with him, after knowing him for five years here, we met online, that is the main thing that they do not like about it, and also that the complete degraded reputation that Nigeria has as a nation as a whole, worldwide. They say all kinds of strange things about his culture, that I have known about as well, and have done the research on, and have all been proven to be untrue, or at least personally for him, he has stated that they are untrue. They always say, "I do not know him", because he is not over here in America, and he could be a killer, sleeping with all kinds of women,not working, and a poor man living in a poor Nigerian shanty town, and even putting roots on me! The problem is, he is none of these things, and more, he is a really nice guy, and a Christian Nigerian, the only problem is, they won't allow themselves to get to know him - nobody will. My friends all say the exact same things too, and worse, they say he is a stalker, and a psycho, simply because he chats and writes very romantically to me, and we used to chat daily, and talk on the phone daily, (he spent the money to call me), all these years, not me, not one time. I have never given him a single penny, not any money, all these years, in five years. I think Americans always have the most terrible impressions of Nigerians, as I did, at times too, myself, I will admit, until I met him, and fell in love with him, he fought hard to win my love all these years, and I finally fell for him, he has been here for me, even when I didn't realize it, through the thick and the thin, he has loved me, even when I didn't love him. The most recent thing is my parents have intervened and have decided to prevent us from having any communication with him - period. My dad has threatened to turn off the internet in the house, so we can't chat, and he has threatened to stop paying the phone bill, so he can't call me on my cell phone. He has been completely controlling, monitoring my every waking move, calling me at different times, "to see what I am up to", and even wanting to read my personal and rather private chat transcripts with him, (which I drew the line there, I managed to not let him read those just yet), but one day, my laptop's power supply died on me, and I was terrified that it was maybe my laptop, so I had him fix it, but when the computer automatically uploaded some programs, when it finally booted up, after he fixed it, a love letter I had written for him, but never sent to him, popped up, right in front of his face, on the screen. Needless to say, we had it out about that, BIG TIME, and I am absolutely terrified to talk to him about him, much less, tell him anything else regarding him. I basically have been forced to dance to my parents tune, my dad and my mom, and do what they want me to do, which is what they feel is best for me, because they feel I am going to die, if I continue on with him, and yes, they have said that, them and my friends, repeatedly, with no proof though, of anything, all of these things that they are saying, and they have said that they will disown me, if I actually decide to be with him, and decide to get back in touch with him. I do not want to lose my parents, but now I have been forced to lose him. My question is I know other girls have gone through this out here, if you are one of them, can you please contact me? I need to talk to someone who will be sensitive with me, and completely sympathetic, because I am very emotional and sensitive about this issue, this whole big huge issue. Any questions you guys have too, you can ask me, and I will be glad to answer. Is there anyone who can relate, or have been through this before out there, please let me know.

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1. My family is the same, won't date a African, but would allow me too if I wanted. Very sad, but African men are gentleman with a strong culture, hard workers and into education and make great family men. I would rather have a African then the black American guy. Stay with him! Ignore them....do whats best.