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Will someone please give me a sane response?

I'm really low right now. I consider suicide at least a few times daily. I've recently developed psoriasis and it's adding to the hopelessness. I need to hear something real and uplifting, or at least sustaining. I can't handle the "seek a therapist" or "call this hotline" answers right now. I just need words from someone who's been here and somehow manages to pull through it every day. Thanks a lot.

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  1. Think positive thoughts. take a walk. Smile. take another walk. one day at a time
  2. Coming from someone who's been there: im not going to tell you to think happy thoughts or take deep breaths because thats all a load a crap.For me, it takes me saying that i can end it whenever i want.Because you need to know your in control, and you are.And control can get you anything, even peace at mind or sanity.Don't under estimate it.
  3. (Jesus said,) "The thief does not come except to steal, and to kill, and to destroy. I have come that [my followers] may have life, and that they may have it more abundantly." (John 10:10)
  4. I've also had problems with depression throughout my life and there was one piece of advice that a close friend of mine gave me that really began to change my outlook. She said, "Justin, you can't go around looking for happiness and you can't expect it to find you. First you have to LEARN how to be content with the way things are before you can ever really hope to look forward with conviction. When your mind is jumbled and you're feeling hopeless take a moment and feel yourself BREATHE. Once you find your center and realize that happiness is a personal responsibility to discover and engage your potential, you will begin to understand that purpose in life is not an obligation, but rather an opportunity." I spend a few days thinking about what that meant and it really began to sink in. Since then, I have done a complete 180* and although nothing in my life has really changed, I feel as though I'm finally moving in the right direction. A little while back, I ran across some reading called "Self-Actualization" by Maslow and it really seemed to make sense to me. It helps me because it takes a very humanistic approach. It describes what it means to be human and what it takes to realize your spiritual and intellectual potential in a very humanistic way. By your use of vocabulary and proper grammar, I'm assuming you're a fairly intelligent individual. I recommend reading into various philosophy and using it as a crutch as you move towards your goals. Some people like religion, but it's not really for everyone. I'll leave a link for you on Self-Actualization. Life is not about where you are, but rather where you're going. It's about the direction you're moving. Working to improve yourself and trying HARD to look at every moment that passes as a genuine opportunity to improve the next isn't always easy, but it's soooo worth it. When you learn to focus on the solutions to problems rather than the problems themselves, you can find a glimmer of hope in even the most dire of circumstances. Positive and negative thinking are both the products of habit. You just have to stick with it and keep pushing yourself in the RIGHT direction. "A musician must make music, an artist must paint, a poet must write, if he is to be at peace with himself. What a man can be, he must be. This is the need we may call self-actualization ... It refers to man's desire for fulfillment, namely to the tendency for him to become actually in what he is potentially: to become everything that one is capable of becoming ..." -- Maslow Hang in there mate. Life can be crazy sometimes, but there's always hope. You just have to find it.
  5. “Nothing is built on stone; all is built on sand, but we must build as if the sand were stone” Always be optimistic it isnt hard to even if youre used to thinking pessimistically. I had a manic depression in my freshman year in high school because I had gone to a new school, had severe acne, and have always been prone to harsh comments from my mother. What I'm doing this year is just thinking positively, I mean just try not to think bad thoughts or speak them either. Keep a cold head and a warm heart.
  6. Well, let's see. I'm an R.N. who has struggled with thoughts of suicide since I was 16, and I'm now 44. I've been on about 7 meds now, and am finally coming to the rational conclusion that I am a (somewhat) atypical bipolar. In the last 8 years, I've had someone commit suicide at my house (gunshot), unfairly lost a job I loved, had my father die unexpectedly, and had my new husband sent overseas for 14 months, and it's about to happen again. And those are just a few of the low points. Ahhhhh...what do I do? I try and drag my carcass out of bed in the morning, even though I'd rather lay there all day. Take the dog to the dog park and try and be happy that at least HE is having a good day. Play some music I like. Pet the cats. Try and find the stupidest stuff I can on Youtube to make me laugh. Remember that there are people that love me, even if they have a hard time showing it sometimes. Think about kids all over the world that are dying because they have nothing to eat and then tell myself that at least I'm not them. Pray for them. Remember that I'm here for a purpose (even if I can't remember what the @#$%% it is). Watch some old Seinfeld, or maybe Chapelle. Write people like you on Yahoo Answers and hope I made even a slight difference in your feelings today...
  7. I was fighting depression from when I was 13 until 30. It's best to admit you have a problem and see a doctor (NOT necessarily a therapist). The solution could be medication or it could be something more complex than that. However if you do not seek assistance you will never know what the solution is! Hang in there and get help, and feel free to email me if you want to ask a question in private. I still have a problem, but I have learned to cope. Having something to occupy your mind helps a lot.
  8. I go through the pits of depression a lot. Thoughts of just calling it quits plague me on a regular basis. I think depression runs in my family, all of my siblings seem pretty f@(ked up, and one of my brothers killed himself about 3 years ago. (the one I liked the most, but I never really told him that enough, and to my regret, I never will) And having gone through all of that, what gets me through the day is the fact that I never want to cause the kind of pain my brothers suicide inflicted on friends and family. I care about them too much for that. I won't put my family through that intentionally. I love him, I hate him, I agonize over his choice to drop out of life. Please don't put anyone through what I went through for my brother.
  9. God Bless and Keep you! Don't Do it. It is Never Ever that Bad...Take some time for yourself and Know who you are In Christ. Trust God Proverbs 3:5-6 You are His child Isaiah 43:1-3...Never Compare yourself to others and Know that tomorrow Brings a New Day and a Fresh Start in life...What would all of us do without You? There is only One You!
  10. Hey, dont feel bad, life has its ups and downs, you will be happy someday. I also have illness, it was so bad that it caused me brain damage, nervous break down, and 3 years of insane depression. I am a little better now, so i am happy. When it comes to happiness, all you have to change is your outlook on life. Some people can be happy even when they are in a very bad situation while some cannot, what causes this difference? people should realize that happiness is in ourselves, in other words, we are all capable of being happy in our current state. Pursue, is act of trying to find(which you are doing now). If we think happiness comes simply from the surroundings, and too busy trying to pursue one, we will never find it. Happiness is in our mind, only. Statistics show poor people are more likely to be happy than wealthy men. It pisses me off when people say i have to change my outlook on life or that my sufferings are nothing compared to kids in africa, when i am depressed, i need someone to talk about my feelings not someone to criticize my feelings. What i am saying is that i am not trying to change your mind, but just remember what i said. I suggest you to distract yourself, get yourself a new hobby, or just talk to someone.(ie parents, friends, etc)It helps.
  11. Well this is a hard one...I dont' know you very well to actually give you any good sane responses...but I can tell you that suicide would be stupid...and yeah I know that it's stupid for me to say that it's stupid because I think about it daily...and have (recently) actually thought strongly of doing it. But I would leave behind a husband who wouldn't understand and two cats who will be lost to the world without me. If you are religious you could try praying...I've heard that helps alot of people who deal with depression..I'm not Christian so I can't say whether or not it works. But I do find talking to my deity helps...to just get it out. How old are you? Are still living at home (with your parents) or are you living alone or with a g/f-b/f (sorry I don't know if you are a boy or girl (sorry)) or spouse? I want you to know that I care about you....and even though I dont' know you personally it would kill me to hear that you killed yourself. I like to think that I'm good at helping people...:D I'm here if you want to talk...email me...my email is on my profile...I will get back to you as quickly as possible...and I'm addicted to the internet and am on most days all day...so getting back with you should be no problem. Good Luck
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